So I re-joined the dreaded Match.com. I hate dating sites and even as introverted and lazy as I am about dating, I still hate Match. Frankly, I'd rather have Dr Perfect knock on my door by accident, fall instantly gaga over me and live happily ever after. And can we just throw in landed gentry to that? Wealth is not a factor but good real estate is hard to find these days!
Forget all the frogs one must kiss in order to get to said Mr Wonderful, and Match certainly has its share of those. I've been on dates where they are just hoping that YOU will be the one and offer to call their ex-girlfriends to vouch for how wonderful a catch they really are. Some of the more harrowing experiences I choose to not re-live right now, but suffice it to say I never look forward to online dating.
So I decided that I needed to know if the skunk stripe is a deterrent in my dating life or should I just take a sabbatical until the final grow-out (in a year). I signed up for one month to see. The question occurs of whether I should have pictures of myself with lovely, coiffed color, or should I show how I look right now. Really, it becomes a question of whether you would like to risk rejection upfront, or risk it at a real meeting. Personally, I'd like the guy to know what he's dealing with instead of being nervous at the initial meeting and over-worrying about whether he feels duped.
So I left some of my original pics up but put this as my primary photo- see right. This proudly displays my skunk stripe in all its glory. There will be no surprises or "false advertising" but rather complete honesty and owning myself. Even though I've only been signed up for a couple of days (around Christmas too), I've had a few winks, a few emails, and even a few likes of this picture. It's only been a couple of days but this is a surprising and refreshing start!
And another thing, they're men my age (30s to early 40s), of all ethnicities, etc. So I will write more as time goes on. So far so good!
Jill,
ReplyDeleteI love your blog and have added it to my blog roll. I look forward to reading your upcoming posts!
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How do I add blogs? You are the savvy blogger and I love reading about your progress.
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